Karen Darrin

Being stuck – feeling powerless and confused – happens to all of us at some time or another.  We have a problem and can’t seem to find a way out.

Why is that?

When we stay focused on the problem, it  prevents us from having to come up with a solution. We love our story so much that we can’t bear to let it go. We’re “story fondling,” as my mentor Martha Beck calls it. We love our story. We hold it close, as if it were a tiny baby needing our tender, loving care. And we dramatically share our story with anyone who will listen. Insert “eye roll” from those around you.

But when we story fondle, we allow our problem to define us and shape our decision-making.

And this only prolongs the pain. It keeps us stuck.

The only way forward is through.  Notice you are story fondling (again!), laugh at yourself (again!) and start to focus on solutions. Or, if you are finding it difficult to let go of the story, find evidence that the story is false.

Here is one of my stories that I fondle often when tired or fearful:  “I am not good enough.”


Uh, what about that rewarding career?  Those successful relationships and friendships?  The wonderful life and business you have right now?  Your commitment to stop animal cruelty and the work you do towards that end?

Well, gosh. It seems, I am good enough.

So, drop the story fondling. Tell yourself the true story. Get unstuck.

CALL TO ACTION:  What story do you “fondle” over and over again?  What evidence can you think of to prove your story is false?

Let me help you get unstuck.  Schedule a 50-min complimentary Breakthrough Session here: https://karendarrin.acuityscheduling.com/  or contact me at karen@karendarrin.com.