Karen Darrin

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There are many compelling reasons to build a high-performing team. Great teams deliver stronger results, faster. They’re more innovative. They challenge you to learn more quickly and to be at your best.  And, honestly — they’re simply more fun.

All that aside, an even better reason to build a better team is to address the fact that most of us are surprisingly lacking in self-awareness. Researcher and author Tasha Eurich uncovered this disturbing statistic through her multi-year study on the topic of self-awareness: 95% of us think we are quite self-aware, but only about 10-15% of us actually are. Yikes!

So how can teams help with your self-awareness? The important connection is feedback. We need feedback to help match our internal view of ourselves with the external view. And on the best teams, not only are teammates willing to provide feedback to each other, they are required to do so.

What if you could get honest insights and feedback from coworkers who are truly committed to your success and get to see you in action? Think of how much faster you could address the unintended consequences of your actions if you were surrounded by people motivated to give you useful feedback.

How to encourage candid feedback:

  • Assume positive intent. Give your teammates the benefit of the doubt. Assume they are providing feedback not to judge you but to make you better.
  • Talk to your teammates, not about them. It takes courage, but talking directly and respectfully with teammates when something goes wrong can solve many misunderstandings without creating drama or bringing others into it.
  • Care about your teammates’ success. Take an interest in your teammates’ success. Ask questions about their concerns, know what their goals are, help where you can, and be a good listener and collaborator. Know what drives others’ success.
  • Push your teammates to do their best work and vice versa. On the best teams, members challenge each other to reach their goals. They don’t spend energy watching their own backs, so they take risks and reach higher. Start by asking your teammates to challenge you. Bring them ideas and ask for input. Ask for feedback on your plans. Embrace the idea that your teammates make you better.
  • Ask for personal feedback. Before offering feedback, ask for it first. Ask your teammates what you could do more/less of or start/stop to better support their success. Give permission for teammates to share feedback by asking for it regularly and listening openly. Thank others for giving you feedback.

To build greater self-awareness, work to create a team of people who trust, support, and challenge you to be your best. Surround yourself with people who will speak their truth, even when it’s hard. And then listen. When you do, you will see an amazingly positive impact — on you, on them, and on the overall success of your team.

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