Chronic rushing through a never-ending to-do list feeds anxiety and heightens stress levels. Due to the epinephrine, also known as adrenaline, released in the brain during stressful periods, our brains get “hooked” on the stimulation of activity. Our bodies become addicted to rushing and our minds switch into autopilot with everything becoming urgent. How do you stop the cycle? Step back and re-evaluate where you are heading.
“Go slow to go fast” is a coaching tool that I use when clients are rushing to nowhere special (including me!). It is time to take a breath and re-align your activity with your desired results. Here are the steps I walk my clients through:
What’s the ideal outcome for today and the future?
Think about your ideal outcome and get clear on your vision of the life you wish to lead. Ask yourself “What does my ideal life look like? What does it feel like? Am I acting in alignment with that?” Often we chase after job titles or companies to work for because we think that’s what we should or ought to do. We don’t reflect on whether or not the details of the position or company culture are in alignment with our personalities, ethics, or life goals. We jump in at the deep end with narrow expectations: more money, more prestige, more power. Remember, the result of your uninformed decision could be your life five months from now or five years from now. No matter the time frame, time is precious. Get clear on the result you want to accomplish, your ideal outcome, so that you can take necessary and more aligned actions to reach it.
Identify your lack of congruence.
Pay attention to the actions you take each day that either help or hinder the path to your ideal life. Try to mindfully observe and reflect on your behaviors without judging them. And don’t beat yourself up if your actions do not align with your goals just yet. It just means it’s time to start shifting your focus and re-strategize so that your actions align with the results you want.
Define what success means to you.
Each of us has a different definition of success. For some, success is defined monetarily: I am successful because I earn a six-figure annual salary. For others, success means having freedom or having an abundance of relationships that bring happiness: I am successful because I foster close relationships and maintain a strong community of friends and family. If you don’t define success for yourself, you are more likely to rush in the race toward someone else’s version of it.
Identify the strengths needed for success.
What are the skills necessary to actualize your vision of success? What strengths do you already possess that you can tap into and build on? Once you break down the factors necessary to help you achieve your vision you also become more clear on the direction to take in order to acquire the new skills and behaviors you need or further hone the skills you already have.
Expand those strengths in the present.
Do not abandon the skills and strengths you already have for those you don’t as they can help actualize what you wish to achieve. Focus on them, nurture them, and expand them. Your mental and emotional bandwidth is correlated to your ability for refined action. Remember that all the qualities you need to succeed reside in the present with you, and whoever gets to the present moment first and fully, wins.
When you consistently rush from point A to point B you miss the subtle nuances of the present moment that bring you joy, build connections, cultivate strengths, provide opportunities, and keep you focused to achieve the vision of your ideal life. Instead of getting caught rushing to nowhere devote some mindful time to slowing down and developing personal habits to achieve better results.
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