Karen Darrin

Working with Younger Employees

Last week, I onboarded a new employee into her "first real job" after graduation. What an eye-opening jolt that was! My mind swirled in recalling my own "first real job" after college graduation a thousand years ago. I was so green, so scared of making a mistake, and...
Working with Younger Employees

Working with Younger Employees

Last week, I onboarded a new employee into her "first real job" after graduation. What an eye-opening jolt that was! My mind swirled in recalling my own "first real job" after college graduation a thousand years ago. I was so green, so scared of making a mistake, and...

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A 4-Step Coaching Model for Leaders

A 4-Step Coaching Model for Leaders

Coaching is an essential leadership skill that works best when the leader is in the right frame of mind.  Your best mindset is to approach coaching interactions by being open-minded, non-judgmental and always assuming positive intent. Here is a framework you can try....

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3 Ways to Stop Limiting your Happiness

3 Ways to Stop Limiting your Happiness

“The Big Leap: Conquer Your Hidden Fear and Take Life to the Next Level” by Gay Hendricks is one of those books I reread. because there are key concepts in it that deeply resonate with me and I continue to work on. Last week, I wrote about one of those key concepts....

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What is Your Zone of Genius?

What is Your Zone of Genius?

My library has a number of books that are highlighted, dog-eared, and have margins full of my musings. These books inspire my growth and challenge my thinking. I'll randomly yank one off the shelf when I need a jolt of inspiration. One of these books is "The Big Leap:...

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Post-Traumatic Growth

Post-Traumatic Growth

My library has a number of books that are highlighted, dog-eared, and have margins full of my musings. These books inspire my growth and challenge my thinking. I'll randomly yank one off the shelf when I need a jolt of inspiration. One of these books is "The Big Leap:...

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4 Ways to Increase your Emotional Agility

4 Ways to Increase your Emotional Agility

Failures, challenges, and mistakes… they happen to the best of us. Here's a new way of thinking about the bad things that happened to us. It is a concept called: Post Traumatic Growth: (PTG) The positive mental shift experienced as a result of adversity. We hear a lot...

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The Perils of Perfectionism

The Perils of Perfectionism

“Tough emotions are part of our contract for life. You don’t get a meaningful career or raise a family or leave the world a better place without stress and discomfort. Discomfort is the price of admission to a meaningful life.” Susan David, Ph.D. The way we navigate...

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Busy Is Not The Point

Busy Is Not The Point

Being described as a perfectionist often carries a positive connotation. It implies high standards and keen attention to detail. If you are on the receiving end, you can generally count on work being provided that is of excellent quality. If you are the carrier of...

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Time Management Matrix: Urgent vs. Important

Time Management Matrix: Urgent vs. Important

Busy is not the point ~ Seth Godin Seth Godin is a rock star and if you haven't heard of him, read him or listened to his insightful wisdom on his slew of podcast interviews, well, so much for you and business in today's world. He is direct, articulate, a certifiable...

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What is Your Mindset and Why Does it Matter?

What is Your Mindset and Why Does it Matter?

When it comes to being efficient, Stephen Covey’s time management matrix (originally called "The Eisenhower Matrix" after President Dwight Eisenhower) makes it easy to figure out what you “need” to be doing with your time and attention. Covey is the author of The...

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3 Ways to Manage an Introverted Employee

3 Ways to Manage an Introverted Employee

Being described as a perfectionist often carries a positive connotation. It implies high standards and keen attention to detail. If you are on the receiving end, you can generally count on work being provided that is of excellent quality. If you are the carrier of...

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4 Ways An Introverted Leader Thrives

4 Ways An Introverted Leader Thrives

Last week, I wrote about how an introverted professional can excel as a manager. There are specific skills an introvert can bring to a team that an extrovert typically does not naturally exhibit. Those skills are: Introverts are motivated by productivity, rather than...

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Fear Creates Courage

Fear Creates Courage

My library has a number of books that are highlighted, dog-eared, and have margins full of my musings. These books inspire my growth and challenge my thinking. I'll randomly yank one off the shelf when I need a jolt of inspiration. One of these books is "The Big Leap:...

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Leading When the Future Is Fuzzy

Leading When the Future Is Fuzzy

“The Big Leap: Conquer Your Hidden Fear and Take Life to the Next Level” by Gay Hendricks is one of those books I reread. because there are key concepts in it that deeply resonate with me and I continue to work on. Last week, I wrote about one of those key concepts....

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Change Your Perspective, Change Your Life

Change Your Perspective, Change Your Life

Coaching is an essential leadership skill that works best when the leader is in the right frame of mind.  Your best mindset is to approach coaching interactions by being open-minded, non-judgmental and always assuming positive intent. Here is a framework you can try....

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The World’s Worst Boss

The World’s Worst Boss

When it comes to being efficient, Stephen Covey’s time management matrix (originally called "The Eisenhower Matrix" after President Dwight Eisenhower) makes it easy to figure out what you “need” to be doing with your time and attention. Covey is the author of The...

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Ideas to Jumpstart Your 2019 Career Success

Ideas to Jumpstart Your 2019 Career Success

Failures, challenges, and mistakes… they happen to the best of us. Here's a new way of thinking about the bad things that happened to us. It is a concept called: Post Traumatic Growth: (PTG) The positive mental shift experienced as a result of adversity. We hear a lot...

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The Power of Asking Great Questions

The Power of Asking Great Questions

Most of us are guilty of worrying too much about what others think of us. Studies show that we consistently overestimate how much, and how badly, others think about us and our failings. An unfortunate consequence of this is that we are far more inhibited and far less...

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5 Tips On How To Outsmart Your Negativity Bias

5 Tips On How To Outsmart Your Negativity Bias

How well do you ask questions? From my experience, most leaders don’t think about this skill. After all, you don’t usually find “the ability to ask questions” on any list of managerial competencies. But asking questions effectively is a major underlying part of a...

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5 Ways to Thrive After Being Laid-Off

5 Ways to Thrive After Being Laid-Off

How well do you ask questions? From my experience, most leaders don’t think about this skill. After all, you don’t usually find “the ability to ask questions” on any list of managerial competencies. But asking questions effectively is a major underlying part of a...

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5 Tips on How to Deal with a Bad Boss

5 Tips on How to Deal with a Bad Boss

Being around people who have a consistent negative disposition is a challenge. Some playfully call these individuals “Debbie Downers." Others call these individuals “energy vampires” and for good reason. As you may have noticed, it's really hard to be around negative...

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No Passion for Your Job? Follow Your Curiosity

No Passion for Your Job? Follow Your Curiosity

If you have a bad boss right now, my condolences. We have all had them and chances are you've had more bad bosses than bosses you could respect and model. It can be tricky to manage up when your direct manager is below average, but it is possible.  Here are a few...

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6 Ways To Make Your Job Suck Less

6 Ways To Make Your Job Suck Less

OK. So… you hate your job, but the money is too good to jump ship. You feel trapped by what are called “golden handcuffs.” Grinning and bearing it only lasts so long.  Your frustrations will explode sooner or later; and, most likely on some undeserving spouse,...

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Busy Is Not The Point

Go Slow to Go Fast

Can't quit your job just yet for the sake of the benefits, paycheck, or just plain fear? Or maybe you've been at the same company for years and know that moving on would mean a big drop in salary. Yet, you slog in each day to a job that just plain sucks. People get...

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How to Increase Your Confidence

How to Increase Your Confidence

Chronic rushing through a never-ending to-do list feeds anxiety and heightens stress levels. Due to the epinephrine, also known as adrenaline, released in the brain during stressful periods, our brains get “hooked” on the stimulation of activity. Our bodies become...

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How to Stand Out from Other Candidates

How to Stand Out from Other Candidates

Can't quit your job just yet for the sake of the benefits, paycheck, or just plain fear? Or maybe you've been at the same company for years and know that moving on would mean a big drop in salary. Yet, you slog in each day to a job that just plain sucks. People get...

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The Power of Reflection

The Power of Reflection

Chronic rushing through a never-ending to-do list feeds anxiety and heightens stress levels. Due to the epinephrine, also known as adrenaline, released in the brain during stressful periods, our brains get “hooked” on the stimulation of activity. Our bodies become...

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How Teams Can Improve Your Self-Awareness

How Teams Can Improve Your Self-Awareness

CALL TO ACTION:  Feel stuck in your job? Let’s outline your best strategy to success. Schedule a complimentary 30-min consult here:  Schedule Free Consult. Reflecting on life and work events, no matter how big or small, is a very powerful tool for developing yourself...

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5 Ways to Boost Your Career Success

5 Ways to Boost Your Career Success

CALL TO ACTION:  Feel stuck in your job? Let’s outline your best strategy to success. Schedule a complimentary 30-min consult here:  Schedule Free Consult. Reflecting on life and work events, no matter how big or small, is a very powerful tool for developing yourself...

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Finding Purpose in Your Job

Finding Purpose in Your Job

CALL TO ACTION:  Want to improve your self-awareness? Let’s outline your best strategy to success. Schedule a complimentary 30-min consult here:  Schedule Free Consult. There are many compelling reasons to build a high-performing team. Great teams deliver stronger...

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5 Ways to Stand Out When Interviewing

5 Ways to Stand Out When Interviewing

Chronic rushing through a never-ending to-do list feeds anxiety and heightens stress levels. Due to the epinephrine, also known as adrenaline, released in the brain during stressful periods, our brains get “hooked” on the stimulation of activity. Our bodies become...

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How to Stand Out from Other Candidates

5 Ways to Build Trust at Work

I am a "podcast-aholic," with multiple episodes constantly at the ready. Hearing interviews with authors of new books are one of my favorite ways to learn something new. I recently honed in on an interview with David Burkus about his new book, "Friend of a Friend: The...

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5 Ways to Nurture Your Network

5 Ways to Nurture Your Network

Do you dread going into the office Monday morning? Maybe a new boss has entered the equation, creating a rift between how you once felt and how you now feel. Perhaps your company has recently been acquired, changing the culture. Maybe you simply have outgrown your...

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4 Ways to Look Confident When Presenting

4 Ways to Look Confident When Presenting

“It is the one quality that cannot be acquired, it must be earned.” –Warren Bennis, on trust You won’t find this in your new employee orientation guide or on a job description, but building trust with your leaders, peers and clients, is one of the most important...

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Why Am I Not Getting Hired?

Why Am I Not Getting Hired?

The key to a good presentation is confidence. While some people have a knack for public speaking and giving presentations, it doesn't come so naturally to others. Fear can keep us stuck, possibly not moving forward in our careers by stepping up and being a presenter....

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Managing Yourself While in a Toxic Workplace

Managing Yourself While in a Toxic Workplace

Most of us are guilty of worrying too much about what others think of us. Studies show that we consistently overestimate how much, and how badly, others think about us and our failings. An unfortunate consequence of this is that we are far more inhibited and far less...

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4 Ways Office Politics Can Help Your Career

4 Ways Office Politics Can Help Your Career

Do you dread going into the office Monday morning? Maybe a new boss has entered the equation, creating a rift between how you once felt and how you now feel. Perhaps your company has recently been acquired, changing the culture. Maybe you simply have outgrown your...

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3 Tips on How to Not Take Anything Personally

3 Tips on How to Not Take Anything Personally

Most of us are guilty of worrying too much about what others think of us. Studies show that we consistently overestimate how much, and how badly, others think about us and our failings. An unfortunate consequence of this is that we are far more inhibited and far less...

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4 Steps to Boost Your Self-Confidence

4 Steps to Boost Your Self-Confidence

In The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom (A Toltec Wisdom Book) by Don Miguel Ruiz, the second agreement is “Don’t take anything personally.” Ruiz writes: “Even when a situation seems so personal, even if others insult you directly, it has nothing...

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How to Increase Your Confidence

6 Steps to Boost Your Self-Confidence

Having a large network is great, but you must nurture these relationships. Otherwise, people can quickly forget about you. The goal is to stay “top of mind,” which can only happen if you make regular efforts to stay in contact and engage in meaningful communication...

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If Willpower Doesn’t Work, What Does?

If Willpower Doesn’t Work, What Does?

Two weeks ago, I discussed resilience (article) and referenced Reivich and Shatté’s book, The Resilience Factor: 7 Keys to Finding Your Inner Strength and Overcoming Life’s Hurdles. They define resilience as a compilation of seven measurable factors: Emotional...

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Acting Confident When You’re Not

Acting Confident When You’re Not

Most of us are guilty of worrying too much about what others think of us. Studies show that we consistently overestimate how much, and how badly, others think about us and our failings. An unfortunate consequence of this is that we are far more inhibited and far less...

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Why You’re Stuck and What To Do About It

Why You’re Stuck and What To Do About It

In The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom (A Toltec Wisdom Book) by Don Miguel Ruiz, the second agreement is “Don’t take anything personally.” Ruiz writes: “Even when a situation seems so personal, even if others insult you directly, it has nothing...

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Tips for Resolving Workplace Conflict

Tips for Resolving Workplace Conflict

Having a large network is great, but you must nurture these relationships. Otherwise, people can quickly forget about you. The goal is to stay “top of mind,” which can only happen if you make regular efforts to stay in contact and engage in meaningful communication...

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How to Climb Out of a Career Rut

How to Climb Out of a Career Rut

Conflict is an inevitable part of work. We've all seen situations where people with different goals and needs have clashed, and we've all witnessed the often intense personal animosity that can result.  But, conflict is not necessarily a bad thing. When you resolve it...

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Job Crafting – Create Meaning in Your Work

Job Crafting – Create Meaning in Your Work

Confidence is highly coveted, yet often elusive. We dedicate time and energy to cultivating the feeling so we can tap into it when we need it most: at work, in business meetings, during tough conversations. Fortunately, there are a few science-backed tricks to get us...

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Stuck?  Move!  You are Not a Tree!

Stuck? Move! You are Not a Tree!

Do you dread going into the office Monday morning? Maybe a new boss has entered the equation, creating a rift between how you once felt and how you now feel. Perhaps your company has recently been acquired, changing the culture. Maybe you simply have outgrown your...

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Worry Wart — Why We Have a Negativity Bias

Worry Wart — Why We Have a Negativity Bias

Having a large network is great, but you must nurture these relationships. Otherwise, people can quickly forget about you. The goal is to stay “top of mind,” which can only happen if you make regular efforts to stay in contact and engage in meaningful communication...

read more
Your Inner Critic: The Meanest Bully Ever

Your Inner Critic: The Meanest Bully Ever

Last week, I wrote about how an introverted professional can excel as a manager. There are specific skills an introvert can bring to a team that an extrovert typically does not naturally exhibit. Those skills are: Introverts are motivated by productivity, rather than...

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Story Fondling – How to Stay Stuck

Story Fondling – How to Stay Stuck

Busy is not the point ~ Seth Godin Seth Godin is a rock star and if you haven't heard of him, read him or listened to his insightful wisdom on his slew of podcast interviews, well, so much for you and business in today's world. He is direct, articulate, a certifiable...

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What Kind of Christmas Cookie are You?

What Kind of Christmas Cookie are You?

Step 1: Notice your thoughts. Notice that you are the observer of these thoughts. Step 2: Write down the thoughts. Step 3 is to evaluate the thoughts you wrote down. For each thought, ask yourself: How do I feel when I think this thought? Take time to explore your...

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3 Steps to Finding Bliss in Your Job

3 Steps to Finding Bliss in Your Job

Busy is not the point ~ Seth Godin Seth Godin is a rock star and if you haven't heard of him, read him or listened to his insightful wisdom on his slew of podcast interviews, well, so much for you and business in today's world. He is direct, articulate, a certifiable...

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The Energy of Giving

The Energy of Giving

Step 1: Notice your thoughts. Notice that you are the observer of these thoughts. Step 2: Write down the thoughts. Step 3 is to evaluate the thoughts you wrote down. For each thought, ask yourself: How do I feel when I think this thought? Take time to explore your...

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The Power of Trust

The Power of Trust

  I love to see formerly abused animals blossom under new love and care. I am amazed every time I see an abused dog, cat, horse, cow, etc. who is now safe at a sanctuary (CircleL.org or BestFriends.org, my two favorites) start to trust humans again. It empowers...

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Notice Your Thoughts

Notice Your Thoughts

I have had the most amazing experience these last fourteen months. I volunteer at a ranch sanctuary (CircleL.org) and I started working with a very abused horse named Starlight.  She had been at the ranch a few years already (brought to them by the authorities) and no...

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What is Your Body Telling You?

What is Your Body Telling You?

  I love to see formerly abused animals blossom under new love and care. I am amazed every time I see an abused dog, cat, horse, cow, etc. who is now safe at a sanctuary (CircleL.org or BestFriends.org, my two favorites) start to trust humans again. It empowers...

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